dear future husband:

i saw these, and i thought they were adorable.  these letters are the product of writing a love letter every day for a year.  it would be such a great gift- especially like first anniversary, which i think is paper….

x leslie


dear future husband:

i was re-reading my journal from a few years ago, and i got to a section where my mom and i were talking about relationships, and the way to have a healthy one.  i’m trying to work on them in my day-to-day relationships, so that when we get married, i’ll be ready to make our marriage work.  i hope you’re doing the same.

1. everyone is different, even if we appear to be the same.
2. change your behavior.  you can’t do anything about the other person; so, to make the relationship work, you’ve got to change.
3. if [when] there is an argument, focus on events not generalizations or judgements.  use statements like “i feel” or “i thought”.  make sure the other party knows you’re willing to accept you’re wrong.
4. don’t misjudge.  having your own opinion about someone or their actions is fine, just be willing to change it.
5. don’t focus on who’s right.  focus on improving the situation.  also, don’t focus on who’ll win, it’s not a competition.
6. when you forgive them, never mention it again.  erase the incident from your mind.  never bring up past, forgiven grievances in any sort of argument.
7. don’t depend on others to make you happy.

hope we both can work on these things.

x leslie

little gems from professor swensen

while studying for my modern art final, i keep coming across the funniest little quotes from my professor.  here are a few of my favorite:

[while discussing duchamp’s fountain] “why do we always come back to this… plumbing!?”

“who wants to listen to marie osmond perform this?”

“if [an art work] creates a big stink, buy it, folks.”

“just talking about pavlov [as in pavlov’s dog], how many of you are getting a good build up of saliva? i am, and i wonder what that says about my psychology.”

[after saying he’s not going to let us out early] “i can see you’re all pained, and that’s the perfect time to turn the knife.”

while discussing nazi art, he called me liesel.

“there’s no sexier way to start off class than to talk about fascism.”

“there’s nothing more mexican than [a really long name.]”

“not a bad day dumpster diving.”

“but cows don’t have rows of teets, megan.”

“he didn’t die of a tragic, sad way.  he died of cancer… wait…”

yeah, that’s good ol’ art history for ya.

dear future husband:

a few weeks ago, i went to a fireside for my ward that talked all about dating.

the speaker said that the main quality we should want in a spouse in the capacity to change.  i know i’ve talked about this before, being the point of love and marriage.  and i can’t believe how true it is.  we are all flawed, and it our willingness to change that will make us better people.

i’m working on that for myself, and i hope that you’re working on it, too.

x leslie

love quote

“I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” 
– harry, when harry met sally

dear future husband:

i saw this on the male version of this blog, and i couldn’t help but smile:

“I want to make you laugh, if that requires me dancing around the house in my underwear with or without you, consider it done. If not, I’m going to do that anyway so deal with it.”

yes, i will be this goofy for you if you want me to be.  i probably will anyways, because i am kinda a goofy girl- as anyone who knows me will tell you.

x leslie