i recently saw “five-year engagement” on a flight. it had such an anti-“hollywood” movie in it’s approach to love. growing up, i watched movies like “serendiptiy” and “kate & leopold” where love is predestined. it’s going to happen with a certain person at a certain time. in the meantime, we’re just biding our time. in reality, soul mates are just two people who decided at one time to take a chance on each other. yes, it’s a miracle, but not because there’s just one love, but because there are a billion potential loves.
watch this clip to see what i mean. i love the last bit: you just pick a cookie and take a bite.
here are some latter day saint leaders’ teachings on the matter:
“Temple marriage covenants do not magically bring equality to a partnership. Those covenants commit us to a developmental process of learning and growing together—by practice.. . . Equal partnerships are not made in heaven—they are made on earth, one choice at a time, one conversation at a time, one threshold crossing at a time. And getting there is hard work.” – elder bruce c. hafen
“Soul mates’ are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.” – president spencer w. kimball
i don’t think you will ever find the person who is 100% right for you. instead, i think you find someone who is partly right for you (maybe only 50%), and you spend the rest of your life working up to 100%. all this being said. some people just shouldn’t be together. don’t choose someone for the sake of choosing someone. i’m just warning you to not get stuck on this mentality that there is only one person for you. just because there are a billion fish in the sea, doesn’t mean the fish on your line has the potential to be your perfect fish.